Until recently, whenever I heard the word self-love, a big part of me always felt it was a fluffy word with little meaning: a poorly crafted “self help message” with little ability to move the needle in my life. Boy, was I mistaken!
Self-love is not the easiest of concepts to grasp at first. While the word seems pretty straight forward, understanding its implications requires some deep thought and personal practice.
By looking at this concept closely, I discovered a new way of looking at myself and the events around me.
Loving oneself is something we take for granted. “How can I possibly NOT love myself” you would think, but when you look at it closely, you’ll notice small gestures and small words you tell yourself that don’t come from a place of self-love.
Self-love is not just a state of how to feel better about yourself. It is a state of appreciation for oneself that grows from actions that support our physical, psychological, and spiritual growth.
Self-love is one of the best self-care tips as its dynamic, and it spreads through acts that mature us. When we act in ways that expand self-love in us, it’s easier for us to embrace our weaknesses and our strengths, have less need to justify our shortcomings, have more compassion for ourselves and others. We are more aligned with what we do, take more ownership of our life, and manage our energy better. It's the true inspiration behind 3SSENTIA app and how we want to empower professionals in their day!
Praciting self-love is also a powerful antidote to negative self-talk and generally one of the best habits to improve mental health. When we are not being present in our day and are mindlessly wandering, our brain tends to have a default position where it critiques ourselves or others by focusing on what is WRONG. In these instances, we tend to manifests thoughts about:
Focusing on nurturing our mindfulness and self-awareness thus becomes a necessary condition if we change our inner narrative, coping with stress, and create a state inside us geared towards openness and positivity.
What’s more, as we are social species, our survival is dependent on being loved and belonging amongst other people. If we need to belong and be loved, we need to make sure that our behaviours and qualities will support this.
I used to think being generous would be a great way to practice love and self-love but what I realised after some time of self-observation, is that I can only be truly generous with others if I love myself first. When I love myself, I “don’t need to be generous” as generosity is now a natural consequence of the state that I am, aligned to my most authentic to myself. In short, generosity becomes effortless.
So what are ways to practice self-love?
While life can feel a bit of a roller coaster, if you look closely, you will see that it’s full of lessons to help us understand what’s best for us.
Even though it might not always be easy to see at first, if we focus on being open and welcoming the events in our life as an opportunity for growth and improvement, our relationship with them changes. We move from a perception where we believe life happens to us to one where life happens for us.
Gratitude is a simple ritual that becomes particularly powerful when practiced just before going to bed or right before starting your day. It’s a great way to set your brain and heart in the right direction enabling you to truly savor great moments in your day while at the same time cementing memories inside you.
It ultimately results in the creation of stronger associations inside your brain allowing you to recreate that feeling with greater ease. Eventually, it will even become a habit. How great is that?
Perhaps one of the most overlooked elements when it comes to self-love, yet the most important.
We tend to be our biggest critics and while to a certain degree it’s understandable, it’s the tone we choose to address ourselves that is often counterproductive.
When we learn to address ourselves in a more forgiving way, we can see perceived “shortcomings” as an opportunity for growth, allowing us to move forward in our lives with greater purpose and positivity.
It’s pretty clear that we are not perfect and making mistakes is part of the game. With this in mind, being harsh on ourselves can not only hinder our self-worth but also drain our energy levels, create more fear in us, and thus less likeliness to act.
Forgiving ourselves from a place of love and not of war, makes us more resilient and encourages us to try again, only this time with more positivity.
It ultimately refers to the concept of putting more love in what we do. Our day is filled with micro-moments, the more we connect with them by putting intentionality in what we do, the more we can express our GREATEST US no matter if our goal is to boost our productivity or experience a healthier work-life balance.
Focusing on who we want to be, how we want to feel, and what we want to achieve allows us to open a space inside of us. Here, we look at our life from a place of abundance where every event represents an opportunity to open our hearts and love ourselves and others.
This magic trio of Gratitude, Forgiveness, and Intentionality is the ultimate happiness hack and form of emotional self care which if practiced with care and consistency, will broaden your horizon and open you up to the possibility of a new life where “scarcity” will no longer hold you back.
So go on & love yourself!
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